Mel Gibson is returning to the silver screen for the 1st time in 7 and 1/2 years. His new film Edge of Darkness is a return to the style of his trademark films of the past such as Lethal Weapon and Ransom.
What stands out predominately in many people’s minds is the incident which occurred in July 2006 when he was pulled over in Malibu, California for driving under the influence and the anti-Semitic remarks that he made while drunk at the time of his arrest.
Mel has a tremendous body of work, and I happen to be very close friends with his brother Chris Gibson, so I have a natural affinity for him. But I can also quote the movie the Hangover when I say, “We all do stupid things when we are f’d up!”
In a world where salacious coverage of high-profile individuals is the norm, the question begs to be asked: “Where do we draw the line in terms of judgement and criticism of personal behaviors that would be kept private for the most part if they were to come to light in life of an individual who did not have the public spotlight?
People say that being trashed publicly is the price of fame…..and we can see that price being paid all of the time, when we look at the lives of Britney Spears, or Tiger Woods, or Lindsay Lohan or many other public figures both in entertainment and politics.
People love to see people rise, but they also love to see them fall.
In today’s day and age it’s just as easy to find oneself fascinated by what’s not working in other people’s lives, as it is to find oneself fascinated while passing a car wreck on the side of the street. Maybe it makes us feel better about our own lives in some twisted way.
There’s three major points I want to make in relation to this:
1) Judgement – I am going to take a spiritual spin on this concept. All Judgement is self-judgement. My really good friend Scott Mednick who is one of the co-founders of Legendary Pictures and a man I respect a lot, once said to me, “Chris we are ALL perfect beings but we can’t SEE that perfection within ourselves, so we project it out onto others and when they disappoint us, we want to tear them down, just as we tear ourselves down.”
While I don’t claim to be a Guru, nor do I want to be, one thing I know is this: if you really want your life to be emotionally textured and rich, one of the most important things you could do is to release all judgement of self and others. It’s easier said than done, but an admirable and enlightened goal. I personally have done enough things in my own life, that I would have done differently if given the opportunity, that it’s difficult to be judgemental of others.
2) We ALL make mistakes, and we all deserve second chances. Think how you would feel if every mistake you EVER MADE were put out for everyone to see and talk about and EVERYBODY wanted to know your business. When you put the shoe on the other foot, you would want to be forgiven for the stupid mistakes of the past; and we’ve ALL made them. Forgiving others really goes hand in hand with having the capacity to forgive yourself. I lived in Hawaii for a couple of years, and the ancient Hawaiians had a wonderful code of forgiveness. They said that there were 3 things that one might feel guilty for: Hala, Hewa, and Ino. Hala means to miss the mark or err by ommission (this is the same definition of the word ”sin”), Hewa means to go overboard or to do to excess, and Ino means to hurt somebody intentionally with hate in mind. In ancient Hawaii, Hala and Hewa were considered dumb, misguided, and maybe even stupid, but not worth feeling guilty over. The only thing worth feeling guilty over was if you Ino’d somebody, or hurt them intentionally with hate in mind. And In ancient Hawaii, even if you Ino’d somebody, they were required to forgive you, if you asked them for forgiveness, and vice versa. You were required to forgive them if they asked you for forgiveness. I think that’s a good frame to put around this whole concept.
3) I was doing a teleseminar yesterday in Canada, called the Millionaire Affair, and the hosts asked me the question “How do you deal with all of the desenters, and people who would want to tear you down on the path toward your dreams.”
It’s an interesting question because as you grow bigger and bigger more people will love you, but more people will also not like you. Abraham Lincoln was once quoted as saying, “I don’t know the key to happiness, but I can tell you the surefire way to be unhappy…try to please ALL the people ALL the time.”
Martin Luther King Jr. used to receive up to 60 death threats A DAY. Here was a man who was doing something incredible for the nation, yet he had people who wanted to tear him down.
There were people who criticized Mother Theresa, for creating co-dependance, and “giving people fish” rather than “teaching them to fish.”
I’m not equating Mel Gibson or any of the other stars to MLK, or Mother Theresa, but they DO have one thing in common: they were sharing their unique gifts with the world in a very powerful way.
They were delivering their God-given gifts in a way that made the world a better place.
So I imagine……….that you….. are probably, FOR joy. And I imagine…. that you are probably FOR happiness. So…. why not be…
FOR-giving.
And when you really think about it. You’re only really ULTIMATELY forgiving a part of yourself. Aren’t You.
When we think of the salacious gossip, that I have to admit, I myself get caught up with sometimes, why not make an effort to take the higher road, and be for-giving.
Let it go
I am personally really looking forward to watching Mel’s new movie “Edge of Darkness.”
Keep Rockin’ the world Mel! And Keep Making it a better place through your artistry!!
Chris Howard
Ceo/Founder
The Academy of Wealth and Achievement
Praise for Edge of Darkness:
“Gripping, Intense And Very Entertaining.” Mel Gibson Returns With a Vengeance!”
Scott Mantz Access Hollywood
“Edge of Darkness’ Will Keep You on the Edge of Your Seat.” Pete Hammond, Box Office Magazine
“Mel Gibson Gives A Powerful Performance.” Kellie Gillespie, THE CW
“A Thrill Ride!” Mark S. Allen, CBS-TV